SEE YOU LATER SHAME!
When perfectionism is driving, we find shame in the passenger shotgun position and fear as that annoying backseat driver.
When we put ourselves out there, there is a risk. The risk of being ridiculed, criticized and insulted. But if we don't take that risk, the resulting risk is much greater... the risk of never being truly seen or heard.
The great thing about shame is that it can only survive in silence, secrecy and judgement. Knowing that, and sharing our shame let's us go freeeeeeeee.
What can we do?
Be that space for someone. If shame needs to be shared, be there to listen. The biggest enemy to shame is Empathy.
Met with Empathy, Shame doesn't stand a chance!
What does Empathy look like?
- Being there
- Saying " That sucks, and I've been there too"
- Saying "I don't even know what to say but I'm glad you told me"
Shame: we all have it, none of us want to talk about it, and it's this deep fear that we're not worthy of love, and not enough.
Let's come together, share our shame, and absolutely say "see you later" to this thing called "shame"!
It's about Progress over Perfection.
Have FUN saying "see ya" to Shame!
I'd LOVE to hear from you:
As Always You're Awesome!!
Jenn Walker :)
Here's some links to Brené Brown's work:
Shame is Lethal
Why Perfectionism is a 20-Ton Shield
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